Your mother always told you so and you never really believed it too much, but the fact is that first impressions really count.And this couldn’t be more true when it comes to contacting someone online.I know this is not marketing school but, like a marketer, you are trying to reel someone in.

Whereas as over confidence can often be a turn off in a first message.

Using the words, gets better results when sending a first message to a woman but not so to a man.

Surprisingly, though, come across as run of the mill and perhaps a bit boring.

So while you should avoid using netspeak too much, using slang or an unusual greeting is considered a great move.

While everybody enjoys compliments on their looks, focusing too much on physical looks seems to imply shallowness.

Messages using words like will more often than not end up getting deleted immediately.Presumably men prefer a more confident approach from a woman online, and ladies the opposite, but we certainly don’t suggest going overboard.A little awkwardness might work, but too much and you’ll seem more Mr Bean than Ryan Gosling.Now that you’ve read the rules you should be able to craft a grammatically correct, unusual, and not overly confident first message that has a pretty good chance of getting a reply.As we said earlier, it might not be the most romantic approach and a little analytical for some, but if it gets results then what’s to lose?Online dating gives you a bit of an advantage in that you can strategically plan that first message so it hits home with a bit of a punch.