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I found that people will not be offended if you suggest a first date before they are ready.In my experience, the other person would offer an excuse but continue communicating.Limiting the time of the first date is a safety precaution: if you end up on a nightmare of a date you’ve already established your “out”.
I once talked to a woman for two months before we met.
She was very nice and we got along well so I was willing to communicate but let her know I’d be talking to others while she gained comfort.
On my first date with my wife, I schedule a one hour date at a diner.
After the hour was over, I explained that I only extend the good dates and since ours was a great date asked if she would be up for miniature golf (she was).
One common reason to delay a first date is due to an attempt to learn more about the other person. I found the first few minutes of the first date are worth more than dozens of emails.
Another reason to delay would be if the person you are communicating with has expressed extreme reservations about meeting people from the internet.Other times, people are just reluctant to meet you because they are still trying to decide if they like you.After a while, any of these cases is a waste of your time.In contrast, many times the dates ended with coffee or lunch.This approach is a cousin to the having-your-friend-call-you-and-faking-an-emergency act that some people think is so slick.Your date might remind you of your time constraint (“But I thought you needed to be home at 8…”). People who are dating online actively will appreciate your planning for a bad date and like the fact that you are saying to them “this is a good date”.